The scars Behind…

It is not unusual to see people fall in and out of love affairs. The reason for two people to fall out of love can be many. But how do they cope with their heartbreak? Even if they are angry with each other, don’t they feel the pangs of their pricking hearts?

Patience and trust are very important factors in the game of Love. It’s heart-numbing to see how people go to such extends in tolerating their partners’ lies, disloyalty and even torture in all forms…mental, emotional, physical…

We think aloud, “Why is it so?”… And the answer is, ‘Because they can’t hate the person they gave away their heart to.’

To keep oneself tied in such relations is foolishness. I suggest better run than ruin your whole life believing you are loved no matter how your partner treats you.

It is easier said than done,… people going through these phases will know what it really means to ‘Let Go’. It’s not easy. We live in our hopes. We believe everything will get to normal as before…and we wait and wait. But the right time is always faraway. Is it foolish to wait? What do you think?

Well, to trust that the best is yet to come makes the waiting much easier. But if it never comes, better understand that it isn’t meant for you. Move On. Don’t let other peoples’ attitude towards you dictate your happiness and your fate. But if you believe that your waiting is worth a million lifetimes… than, don’t stop believing… miracles do happen everyday. Sometimes we need to stop our minds from overthinking in such situations. Too much honking can knock out our brain from thinking right. Listen to your heart instead, it never lies.

Finding the right partner is not easy. Some are lucky to meet the right person and get married too. Their cute love stories give other people hopes… Hopes to Love, Hopes to Dream and trust.

Not everyone is lucky here though. Hearts are broken in every possible shape and very poorly rejoined thereafter, but people hide their scars behind their smiles. Do they ever overcome the pain? Doesn’t it prick them? How do they manage to outgrow the pangs? Or do they never outgrow the pain and the pangs??

Love is the most beautiful thing, though it can get scary…very scary. Yet people don’t stop treading this path. Maybe because falling in love is the easiest thing in the whole process. Things take unwanted turns when the tests’ get too demanding. Most love stories die a premature death here, where promises are not kept. Hearts break and the scars live forever to tell the story of the unfulfilled love, though often hidden behind smiles. People realize it later that, only a few steps ahead, or a little bravery and trust in oneself was what was required at that time. But after time flies away the scars remain to remind of the unfulfilled love, which fell short in gaining its wings.

If you believe in your love, don’t let it get consumed in your fears. Give your hopes and dreams wings…Let your love fly and live its life to the fullest…

 

 

 

Should I wonder Where Am I wrong?

‘Where am I wrong?’ I wonder.

Living my dream, shunning away all that was clinging onto me and speaking my mind aloud… is going undigested for many. Certain events that took place in my life in the last few months helped me understand what life truly is. I realized that there is more to me than being only a wife and a mother. I learned to value my hopes and dreams, which I had never paid much attention to… in going with my duties that fell on my head after marriage. It burdened me further after becoming a mother.

I was lost. Now, I can proudly say, I found myself. I understood my life is as important as every other person that I care for. I enjoy nurturing myself and my dreams.

Motherhood gets so engaging that we lose sight of our own lives, we forget to live our dreams. The role of a Mother is very demanding, and I was totally lost in it. I learned, besides being a mother, I am an Individual… young enough to pursue my dreams. Strong and determined enough to change my life.

There are people who have started judging me, these people don’t mean a dime to me in reality. I wonder what is so wrong in what I am doing?  Why is a woman always judged?  I don’t care anymore, to say the least. It’s my life and I’ve promised myself not to give away the authority to decide on my behalf to anyone.

My kids are happy. They are appreciating my newfound persona. What the most important people in my life(my kids) think, matters. I am solved. Do I need to worry about what other people say or think??? …Noooo!

I believe if something doesn’t serve your soul, better let it go…you will find your peace. Sync your mind and soul with your higher self. Don’t let negative thoughts disturb you. Life Is Beautiful, believe me. Live in your present, Love yourself…your true self…your SOUL. You will see the difference in your daily life and in your attitude towards every other being too.

Should I waste my time and energy wondering where am I wrong?… Of course not!!

Viral Wildfire

How often did you judge someone’s character or morality by his/her dressing sense, hairstyle & easy-going nature? Many a time maybe. It’s humane to assume and make sense of what we see. That comes naturally. But we are also blessed with common sense, aren’t we? Which we should also make use of…..

I have come across the topic, ‘Social media a Boon Or a Bane’ many times. I felt it was a 50/50 thing. Boon because things are much easier being connected through the web, and Bane because we are addicted to it, but we can work that out I felt.

Smartphones with fast internet connections have reached such corners of the world, where humanity is yet to develop in its true sense. Every possible thing can be accessed within a click. How do you think these people are evolving in this fast-paced world?

They know how to operate their smartphones, but have no sense of what is appropriate and inappropriate. Humanity is being destroyed at its core.

The internet pops out fake and bogus news which even sensible people feel the need to verify, sometimes they too fall prey to these news. The trend today is very damaging and serious. A news takes no time to get viral, and without verifying the news people have started taking laws into their hands. It has almost become a trend.

Rumours are spread like wildfire. Nowadays everyone is angry ….. sensitive to even a slight sneeze.  An unverified fake news or a rumour shared multiple times is enough for people to decide what steps should be taken. The Law of the State is thrown out the window…. ‘Who Cares’ is the attitude.

It has been a month since we lost two young promising youths of our state. They were lynched to death. Someone had passed on the news that two youths in a black Scorpio car are kidnappers. This fake rumour was enough for the villagers to take laws into their hands. Their repeated pleadings weren’t given a Damn.

The women-folk of that village in an attempt to save their men gave out excuses saying, “Our Men are illiterate, they did so to save the kids of our village.” How can illiterate men operate the smartphone, make a video of the lynching and post it on facebook?  Couldn’t they understand what the two boys were trying to say… Of course, they know Assamese. When they ransacked the car, did they find any child? It’s a big NO.

We lost two promising youths in the hands of these alcoholic senseless creatures who are still in the making to BE HUMAN. But the Internet reached them faster than common sense and humanity. They are learning things at a click of the button, Knowingly or unknowingly they are losing all their innocence without anyone helping them filter-in what’s appropriate and what is not.

But what can compensate for the loss of the two families? Everyone is crying and shouting their lungs out, ‘WE WANT JUSTICE FOR NILOTPAL AND ABHIJEET’. Most of the accused got arrested. the spread monger too got arrested.

But will rumours being spread through social media stop here? Will this be a lesson for all of us to stop and verify every possible forwarded piece of gossip/news before forwarding further? We should.

If not, the Plight and future of our next generation will be in grave danger…

Lost Childhood

To keep the economy of a country prospering, a vital criterion is to have an educated workforce equipped with relevant skills for the need of the industries. And today’s children are tomorrows adults and the future of our nation.

According to a statistics by ActionAid India, 33 million children are employed in various forms of child labour. 1 in every 11 children in India works to earn a living.

As a data given out by, Save The Children NGO, these five Indian states namely Bihar, Uttar Pradesh, Rajasthan, Madhya Pradesh and Maharashtra are the biggest child labour employers in India.

As per census data 2011, there are 33 million child labourers between the ages of 5-18 years in India. And, 10.13 million between the age group of 5-14 years of age.

In a recent analysis by CRY, the country shows that the overall decrease in child labour is only 2.2% over the last 10 years. It also revealed that child labour has grown by 50% in urban areas. With the National Capital Delhi alone being responsible for 1 million child labourers.

In a developing country like India, this is a disturbing trend and to abolish or at least check the issue both the Government and some dedicated NGO’s are initiating means to tackle it out.

Our nation has children divided into two categories, the well-bred, educated children who splurge on pizzas, burgers and indulge in expensive gadgets and dresses. And in the other category are those children who lose their innocence before age – The Child Labourers.

These children come from very poor families with limited resources. The International labour  Organisation (ILO) and, Spreading Smiles through Education Organisation (OSSE) suggest that poverty is the greatest single force, driving children to workplaces. A child’s income is crucial for his/her household because in some families their children’s income is between 25-40% of their overall household income.

UNICEF estimates that India being a larger population has the highest number of labourers in the world under 14 years of age.UNICEF and its India partners are working closely to ensure the rights and well-being of underprivileged children and to oversee that they are not exploited. UNICEF suggests that poverty is the biggest cause of child labour.

Some child rights activist argue that each and every child who doesn’t attend school is a hidden worker and must be included as a child labour. In order to eradicate poverty and stop children from venturing out for work, the government planned and implemented land distribution programmes in India Poor families were given a small plot of land in order to enable them economic independence but it resulted in the unintended effect of increased child labour.

In recent years due to the enforcement of legislation, and international pressure, there has been an awareness amongst buyers/sellers about child exploitation.  Nowadays in many places, child labourers in streets, marketplaces, hotels, shops, and garages are an invisible sight. Locations have been changed very tactfully not to fall in the eye of the concerned authorities and activists. Now children are mainly engaged in manual works as domestic workers in family homes. Also in glass, match-box, brass and lock-making factories. children are employed because they are cheap and are not aware of their rights.

India’s 2011 census shows that there are more than 10.2 million “economically active” children in the age group of 5-14 years. 5.6 million boys and 4.5 million girls. 8 million working in rural areas and 2 million working in urban areas. Rural child labour decreased from 11 million to 8 million between 2001-2011. Whereas in the same time duration, child labour in urban areas rose from 1.3 – 2 million.

After Independence, India passed a number of constitutional protections and laws on child labour.

  • The Constitution of India in the Fundamental Rights and the Directive Principles of State Policy prohibits child labour below the age of 14 years in any factory, mine, castle or engaged in any other hazardous employment (Article 24). The Constitution also envisioned that India shall, by 1960, provide infrastructure and resources for free and compulsory education to all children of the age group of 6-14 years,(Article 21-A and Article 45).

Certain major National Legislative Development took place, and they are:

  • The Factories Act of 1948: The Act prohibits the employment of children below the age of 14 in any factory.
  • The Mines Act of 1952: The Act prohibits the employment of children below the age of 18 in a Mine.
  • The Child Labour (Prohibition and Regulation) Act of 1986: The Act prohibits the employment of children below the age of 14 years in hazardous occupations identified in a list by the law. The law was expanded in 2006 & again in 2008.
  • The Juvenile Justice (Care and Protection) of Children Act of 2000: This Law made it a punishable crime with a prison term for anyone to procure or employ a child in any hazardous employment or in bondage.
  • The Right of Children to Free and Compulsory Education Act of 2009: The Law mandates free and compulsory education to all children aged 6 to 14 years. This legislation also made it mandatory that 25% of seats in every private school must be allocated for children from disadvantaged and physically challenged groups.
  • India formulated a National policy on child labour in 1987. This policy sought to adopt a gradual approach with a focus on rehabilitation of children working in hazardous occupations. It applied strict enforcement of Indian Laws on child labour combined with development programs to address the root causes of child labour such as poverty.  In 1998, this led to the National Child Labour Project (NCLP) initiative.
  • In 1977, India passed a legislation that prohibits bonded labour by anyone, of anyone including children.

But the enforcements have some unintended effects. while there has been a decrease in child labour because of the enforcement and community vigilance, reports claim that poverty still compels children from poor families to work. These underprivileged children are engaged in economic activities, on a full or part-time basis. They are deprived of their childhood while losing their innocence gradually. Their inability to attend regular school makes them, mentally, physically, socially and morally unsuitable in this fast-growing world. In that case, how will these children contribute or even seem to be at par with their contemporaries in this growing economy?

This is a serious issue in terms of our economic welfare in a time when India is in the path of becoming ‘The Super Power’, where half of its future is growing up in abstract poverty with little or no formal education. Isn’t it a serious matter of concern to think of what will be the mental state of these deprived and underprivileged kids when they’ll find themselves as misfits in the society? What will be the outcome? Will they be sincere enough to contribute to the country in their own way, or are we starkly witnessing the making of future lawbreakers of our country?

June 12, is regarded as ‘World Day against child labour’, and is an ILO sanctioned holiday. It was first launched in 2002 to raise awareness and to prevent child labour. It’s time to join hands and help in the eradication of child labour. A little help and good work by every individual can bring around a massive change and give a ray of hope of a better life and education to every needy child.

Today’s children are tomorrows adults. Help build their future, you will be contributing to building the future of your own nation. What reason to be more proud of than helping your Nation grow in multitudes.